There’s always that
famous saying that we live in such a small world and one way or another everyone
knows everyone. However when we think of this really it is just a quote that
can mean nothing and that we never take no notice of.
When it comes to making friends and knowing
other people, it seems just a simple way as you are always told, just talk to
someone and they will become your friend, or people you may meet from school,
work and throughout your life in general.
However no-one in the world actually takes the time to stop and have a look around and try to find people who are
similar to themselves, life just passes you by, so why waste it not finding
people who have similarities to yourself. People just accept who they meet at
the time and become friends with them.
‘Life
just passes you by’
We all know how
friendship works. You meet a random person, then after a while from talking to
them you start to assign yourself to their characteristics or personality.
Even
at certain times most people may change the way they act, what they like doing
or what they believe in just so they can fit in with other people.
There’s no
need to do that.
This can cause some unhappiness for some people as they
may not enjoy doing what their ‘friends’ are doing, but to fit into that social
group or for some people to even have friends they will go along with it.
It
sometimes is not the right thing to do.
As stated above, it is
such a small world that we live in and from time to time you may have already
bumped into that person that is so similar to you, you don’t need to change who
you are. You can enjoy being who you are and doing what you do from just
talking to other people and making new (possibly the right) friends.
"Friendship is weird.
You pick a human you’ve met and you’re like, 'yup I like this one,' and you
just do stuff together.”
The above quote is great! It can have different meanings for many different people. If
you’re a random person who likes doing a lot of different stuff and living a
busy changing lifestyle each day then you will meet a lot of new people who you
like and then decide to do stuff with them.
If you didn’t like this person or
feel like you do not fully get along with them then it would not be a big
problem for yourself as you would be able to find other people who you most
likely will get along with and will find time to fit them in with your busy
changing lifestyle.
So you’re probably now
thinking why all the talk about friends, similarities, small world and the
title of this blog post:
"two sides same coin?"
Well until recently I have
never thought much about just how small a world we live in and how we meet
people who are similar to us but maybe never meet them properly or
become friends. Lately I have experienced this and seen it first-hand.
I work at skignz and
for the previous 12 months or so I was the only girl working in the company as the rest of the team were boys. This was fine with me as we all got along really well and
they were really nice people, however I would have liked to have a girl around
the office.
Then the time had come when our Film and Media Producer got a years secondment working for FITV in the Falklands which was a great opportunity
for him, which meant we had to hire a new person to take over his position!
Whether
it was to be a boy or girl I would not have minded, although personally I thought a girl would have been
a great addition to the team.
Then comes the time when you realise whoever does gets chosen, we would both have to get to know each other and
become colleagues. However this was not the encounter that I was expecting.
We interviewed a lot of
people for the role and narrowed it down to a few, a mixture of boys and girls.
I asked if I could sit in on one of the interviews one day to get some
experience of what it was like. The day when the interviews were taking place I
sat in one interview with a girl Sarah (now our new Film and Media Producer but
I will get to that soon).
The interview went well and after she left I said to
our CMO, that I felt like I knew her from somewhere and that I knew who she
was, even though I didn’t know her or recognise her name I had a feeling that I sort of 'knew her'.
When the decision
was made, they had chosen Sarah for the position. We all decided to meet up for a
chat before she came in and started working here at the beginning of June.
When meeting in the more relaxed surroundings of a local coffee shop, we were all chatting away getting to know one another when we started to notice similarities.
It started off with small similarities, such as the way we had lived when we were younger, because when travelling to school neither of
us liked to get buses so instead we both got taxis. We realised we both don't like to be alone and that suprisingly we had both had the
first same date with our boyfriends: we each went to the same seaside town, to the same part of the beach.
We were both shocked and started laughing about it when we found about how many similarities we each had and we thought well that could maybe be just it, even
though without us realising it, there was actually far more in store.
On Sarah’s first day at
work we started to get along really well chatting to each other a lot. When
talking to each other, we both discussed our previous placements
with Teesside University for three month before being here at skignz.
Talking about
our three month internships we realised that on one day, we had actually both sat down and had dinner together! We both didn't recognise each other at the table and it was only now that we work together that it finally clicked! Such a small world…
When you start to
realise that you have had a lot of similarities in life with someone that you
have just met, it can seem a bit strange depending on how you get along with
that person. It seems really strange to you that you are as similar to someone
as this, but is it really a bad thing?
That’s where we
realised it wasn’t. We just laughed at every similarity we had, yeah it was
strange at first but now it’s just amusing. We had a lot of
strange similarities that are still appearing this day such as we had the same
first car, the same email address and even buying the same DVD’s on the same day!
Spooky or what?
‘We don’t meet people by accident, they are
meant to cross our path for a reason’
Everyone is judgemental
when they see a person or come to meeting someone new. For instance people may
class blonde as stupid and dumb, when two people such as Sarah and me get along
really well and have so many similarities/personality we could get classed as
the same people, and I am not blonde! It’s a big wide wondering world to not
judge someone and get to actually know a person that you may get along with
really well.
‘Blonde and Brunette –
different but the same’
Meeting someone new is
a great part in everyone’s life at some point, so make sure you do it. We have
figured it can be hard for people to meet each other or even just start to talk
to each other.
Now your wondering how this links with skignz other than we both work here?
Well just imagine if everyone had skignz. It can be very similar
to everyone having social media sites such as Facebook and Twitter; however
skignz is a much easier way to get to know someone and interact with them, you
even can know where they are, so you never have to lose them again!
skignz is a great way
for making friends and staying in contact with them if you have only met that
person for a short while.
You can connect to each other, add each other as
friends and get to see where you each are when arranging to meet up, open your smart phone and see where they are?
You can keep in contact
by talking to each other and interacting through skignz.
If you would like to
find out more about skignz or if you have a struggle to make friends or even
meet new people, then please get in touch or download the app and we will help
to assist you in this tricky but so simple situation!